There are those days when, as I go about my work, I begin to mentally create a litany of everything that I do and how challenging my life is and how hard I work. Of course, I don't want to advertise all this to the wider population. After all, how does that embody the spirit of humility that Christ calls us to? But, this does not keep me from creating this list in my mind. If only I know all of these things, what's the harm in it?
Chore after chore, dish after dish, the pieces of my little list pile up until they become a towering pedestal of self-sacrifice that I've undergone. Whenever I'm having a difficult time, I can take refuge in thinking about this little idol that I've created. I find comfort in all the ways in which I have worn myself to the bone because I'm such a "good woman" and "such a martyr."
There are also those times when I will slave away without asking for help. This is part of my job AND it's part of my "daily sacrifice," so I need to do everything myself, I'll think. And so I grumble and groan and keep building up my tower of sacrifices so that I can admire how much "good" I've done.
Am I really living out the humility that we are called to?
I think not.
Do nothing out of selfishness or out of vainglory; rather, humbly regard others as more important than yourselves, each looking out not for his own interests, but [also] everyone for those of others. ~Phil 2:3-4
Instead of compiling a list of all of the hard work that I've been doing throughout my days, wouldn't it be better to offer my work to God as a prayer?
Instead of taking refuge in this idol of my accomplishments, wouldn't it be better to take refuge in God?
Instead of pridefully wanting to "do it all" myself, wouldn't it be better to humbly ask my husband for help?